tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post1616572679802516746..comments2023-10-08T08:29:47.056-04:00Comments on Bringing along OCD . . . : ExpectationsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-63914321895306004892013-08-29T23:22:59.967-04:002013-08-29T23:22:59.967-04:00Thanks, Nancy. I admire Fox, too. Good point--the ...Thanks, Nancy. I admire Fox, too. Good point--the way we let outcomes affect us matters. I have wasted a lot of time asking "what if" and "why me."Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-27549409507681537282013-08-29T23:20:59.605-04:002013-08-29T23:20:59.605-04:00Thank you, Debbie. I know I've still got a lot...Thank you, Debbie. I know I've still got a lot to learn. Makes life so interesting! :-)Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-51805006065860876152013-08-29T23:20:28.862-04:002013-08-29T23:20:28.862-04:00Thank you, Mary. Basing happiness on the outcome o...Thank you, Mary. Basing happiness on the outcome of our expectations just doesn't work, does it?Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-22003235812467105832013-08-29T11:18:50.102-04:002013-08-29T11:18:50.102-04:00He's such a great person and role model -- so ...He's such a great person and role model -- so much class. <br /><br />I'm not even sure it's even about unrealistic expectations, but allowing ourselves to feel "bad" or "good" depending upon an outcome of something of which we may or may not have any control. <br /><br />So much time is wasted by dwelling on "what if's" and "why did this have to happen?" But that's human nature and something we can all work on.<br /><br />Great post Tina. Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06116903234641971344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-45943482137101978832013-08-29T10:27:59.440-04:002013-08-29T10:27:59.440-04:00so well written tina, my thoughts also. i think we...so well written tina, my thoughts also. i think we are always learning, right up till the day we pass on!!Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16823369215793154260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-20099137895631134742013-08-29T00:45:51.392-04:002013-08-29T00:45:51.392-04:00I think it's very wise and right on! I've...I think it's very wise and right on! I've done that often in my life.. based my happiness on expectations that then don't happen or pan out the way i... expect. :) I've learned not to do that so often, but i still slide back there once in awhile. I'm working hard on it though. And it's amazing how much happier i feel. Acceptance is key. It really is. I'm glad you're accepting things Tina. It's so healthy. Thank you for this excellent post. I love this!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16005482538480063372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-54748186320285590022013-08-28T21:35:05.030-04:002013-08-28T21:35:05.030-04:00Thank you for your comment. "Unrealistic expe...Thank you for your comment. "Unrealistic expectations"--I think I have a lot of those! I'm working on accepting what I can't change--so hard sometimes.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-73730758942705028722013-08-28T21:33:25.654-04:002013-08-28T21:33:25.654-04:00Thanks, Lisa. Accepting others' actions seems ...Thanks, Lisa. Accepting others' actions seems so hard for me sometimes because I feel like I'm approving things I don't feel comfortable approving. But I'm finding that accepting is not the same thing as approving.<br /><br />Thank you so much for the package!! I received it today. I sent you an email about it. :-)Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-23907495032419246522013-08-28T21:31:53.676-04:002013-08-28T21:31:53.676-04:00Thanks, Red. Good point. We forget that others hav...Thanks, Red. Good point. We forget that others have expectations that may be different from ours. :-)Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-71687922389147073882013-08-28T21:31:22.693-04:002013-08-28T21:31:22.693-04:00Thanks, Nadine. It is a lot to think about. I look...Thanks, Nadine. It is a lot to think about. I look forward to reading your post!Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-65251830246736284872013-08-28T21:30:56.040-04:002013-08-28T21:30:56.040-04:00Thanks, Janet. Living in the moment and accepting ...Thanks, Janet. Living in the moment and accepting what is--I experienced the freedom of that for at least a short time during the episode I wrote about in this post. You're right--it's not always easy, but we have to keep trying. :-)Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-28157594063079339602013-08-28T21:29:43.868-04:002013-08-28T21:29:43.868-04:00Thanks, Keith. What Fox said really got me thinkin...Thanks, Keith. What Fox said really got me thinking, too, about the way I expect things and what expectations are OK. That's a good point you make--the importance of keeping things that happen in perspective.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-18419619900119371652013-08-28T21:28:39.042-04:002013-08-28T21:28:39.042-04:00Thanks, Theresa. I think lessons like this take ti...Thanks, Theresa. I think lessons like this take time, don't you?Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-55651508200025156472013-08-28T21:28:17.628-04:002013-08-28T21:28:17.628-04:00Thanks, B. I'm glad it was helpful. :-)Thanks, B. I'm glad it was helpful. :-)Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-32322312570042121582013-08-28T21:27:40.256-04:002013-08-28T21:27:40.256-04:00Thanks, Kristina. I hadn't thought of that asp...Thanks, Kristina. I hadn't thought of that aspect of it, that expectations can sometimes paralyze us and keep us from taking action, taking initiative, etc. I can see that in my own life, too. Thanks for bringing this up!Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-64989445301785960842013-08-28T21:26:33.742-04:002013-08-28T21:26:33.742-04:00Thank you, Linda. I agree with you--it's so im...Thank you, Linda. I agree with you--it's so important, though so difficult, to live in the moment. And accepting ourselves and others is also important. I'm learning that more and more.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-30379063405890443762013-08-28T20:54:23.609-04:002013-08-28T20:54:23.609-04:00I totally agree with what he is saying. We must a...I totally agree with what he is saying. We must accept those things that we can't change and we should not have unrealistic expectations. That frees us from worry and disappointment and allows us to enjoy what we have in the present. Sweet Virginia Breezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00880471609039337533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-31127303827355277962013-08-28T13:11:25.841-04:002013-08-28T13:11:25.841-04:00I can get that - living in the moment. It can be ...I can get that - living in the moment. It can be hard to do - especially accepting others' actions. But it is freeing when you can do so. <br /><br />I shipped your package out yesterday (rolled into the post office at 4:55!). You should see it on Friday.Lisa @ Two Bears Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03464839163693785901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-71878147008539363182013-08-28T13:11:24.708-04:002013-08-28T13:11:24.708-04:00Well said. As a teacher I had many expectations of...Well said. As a teacher I had many expectations of what I wanted kids to do and how to do it. When I look back , some of the problems with some individuals is that they also had expectations.Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-70484594257373260132013-08-28T11:51:37.228-04:002013-08-28T11:51:37.228-04:00There's an awful lot to chew on here. It's...There's an awful lot to chew on here. It's a rich post, and your question makes me want to write something longer. I've been working on what is a difficult post to write, and I think that your post may help me unlock that certain something that felt missing...so hopefully you'll soon see a response on my blog!Nadine_Feldmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05742177071130596367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-24200703895488961842013-08-28T11:15:52.579-04:002013-08-28T11:15:52.579-04:00I think a lot of what he is saying comes down to m...I think a lot of what he is saying comes down to mindfulness and living in the moment. I find letting go of expectations and just accepting what actually is can be freeing.....of course it's not always easy, but I keep trying...great post. Lots to think about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-20160063253662722052013-08-28T09:19:03.500-04:002013-08-28T09:19:03.500-04:00After reading this statement, it has caused me to ...After reading this statement, it has caused me to ponder here before writing my comment. I think that keeping our expectations in line (not saying to expect bad things, but to manage them and keep everything that happens in perspective) can result in a lot less stress in our lives. Had never thought of this before. Interesting! Optimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-48442411366212997592013-08-28T09:11:32.108-04:002013-08-28T09:11:32.108-04:00that is a lesson i am still trying to learn. :)that is a lesson i am still trying to learn. :)TexWisGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641962051044162710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-70627681531309823842013-08-28T06:52:57.783-04:002013-08-28T06:52:57.783-04:00Oh your timing of this article could not have come...Oh your timing of this article could not have come at a better time for me Tina thank you. I do believe I get it and it makes perfect sense to me. Hug BButtons Thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05029439906543077861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-16979578098922309682013-08-28T01:30:22.014-04:002013-08-28T01:30:22.014-04:00I think I have had to realize that at times with t...I think I have had to realize that at times with the health issues I am going through--accepting that this is where I am and then from there, trying to learn how I can live like this can be helpful. Because if I keep expecting that I might get better next week, next month, next year, then I might not do anything b/c I'm waiting until I get better. What if that day never comes? Then I haven't done anything in the meantime.Kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07912518380859086951noreply@blogger.com