tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post4097292781774930479..comments2023-10-08T08:29:47.056-04:00Comments on Bringing along OCD . . . : Memoir: The jug of waterUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-27125832898019444802012-11-14T15:44:38.326-05:002012-11-14T15:44:38.326-05:00Thank you, Amanda.Thank you, Amanda.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-24727551695077292152012-11-14T00:47:34.183-05:002012-11-14T00:47:34.183-05:00This sounds like it would be incredibly tough for ...This sounds like it would be incredibly tough for that young child. I can't even imagine it. I am not sure what I would want to know ... I would instead wish to tell that child not to feel badly about her actions, that it is not her fault, and that she will be able to get the help she needs soon.<br /><br />Thinking of you and hoping you are well :0)Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05166689236909570817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-56070137062845864692012-11-13T20:45:15.352-05:002012-11-13T20:45:15.352-05:00Grace, thank you so much for your kind comment! I ...Grace, thank you so much for your kind comment! I am writing, but I have a lot to do! I am looking forward to YOUR memoir! :-)Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-64699015990457006942012-11-13T19:37:59.379-05:002012-11-13T19:37:59.379-05:00I would like to know everything. What she was feel...I would like to know everything. What she was feeling. What she was thinking. What were her compulsions. What did she do to escape her inner torment. You are such a gifted writer. I hope you're working on your memoir. I will be first in line to buy it. GRACE PETERSONhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04520343332670354262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-16255773668730953902012-11-12T21:43:09.686-05:002012-11-12T21:43:09.686-05:00I felt a lot of guilt for being "disobedient&...I felt a lot of guilt for being "disobedient" and making my parents upset at the things I did. I want to explore when I felt happiest and safest. Thanks for your comment.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-36320521800550960422012-11-12T21:42:13.399-05:002012-11-12T21:42:13.399-05:00Thank you, Kim, I needed to hear that. Thank you, Kim, I needed to hear that. Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-51113487639993574532012-11-12T21:41:44.424-05:002012-11-12T21:41:44.424-05:00Jodi, something in me just couldn't give up, I...Jodi, something in me just couldn't give up, I guess. I can't really explain how I survived, but it's something I want to explore.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-51691542006782824852012-11-12T21:08:24.516-05:002012-11-12T21:08:24.516-05:00I would like to know if she felt guilty about her ...I would like to know if she felt guilty about her need to hand wash; also, when did she feel happiest and safest?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-28092106872523977782012-11-12T19:46:20.233-05:002012-11-12T19:46:20.233-05:00I love that you ae telling your story, Tina. By t...I love that you ae telling your story, Tina. By telling your story, others will know they are NOT ALONE.<br /><br />Ever.<br /><br />Love. XxxMy Inner Chickhttp://myinnerchick.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-30872013829118557192012-11-12T16:20:14.569-05:002012-11-12T16:20:14.569-05:00How did she manage those three days? Since she obv...How did she manage those three days? Since she obviously survived. (I'm sure anxiously) But still survived! Jodi @ Heal Nowhttp://www.healnowandforever.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-48012113001403683422012-11-12T15:49:11.114-05:002012-11-12T15:49:11.114-05:00Lisa, you are such an understanding mom! Your boys...Lisa, you are such an understanding mom! Your boys will benefit greatly from that.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-88521054848869906822012-11-12T15:48:18.583-05:002012-11-12T15:48:18.583-05:00Krystal Lynn, yes, I was angry then and felt very ...Krystal Lynn, yes, I was angry then and felt very misunderstood and alone. I think my mother was very frustrated and angry and didn't know what else to do.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-76465869149079153592012-11-12T14:56:05.127-05:002012-11-12T14:56:05.127-05:00I understand not wanting to run a well dry, but I ...I understand not wanting to run a well dry, but I do feel sad over the harsh method. I had to work a bit w/ my oldest when he was using way too much toilet paper (like half a roll). But we just talked about why it was bad for planet earth and what an appropriate amount would be. After a few reminders, he finally got it.Lisa @ Two Bears Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03464839163693785901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-73456749396021952282012-11-12T11:44:26.344-05:002012-11-12T11:44:26.344-05:00This practically ripped my heart out. Maybe becau...This practically ripped my heart out. Maybe because I have and still struggle with hand washing, this just pulled and tugged at me. <br />What would I want to know more about this girl? I know she resented the jug, but was she angry at her mother? As a grown up you can rationalize that the mother didn't know about OCD, was working out of her own concern and frustration not only of having a daughter washing her hands for long periods of time, but a genuine concern for waste of water. (I feel a lot of guilt for that myself) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16288842067954888301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-27848472051740205612012-11-12T09:39:56.079-05:002012-11-12T09:39:56.079-05:00I have read about counting compulsions, which I ha...I have read about counting compulsions, which I have done, mostly in the past. Different people do things using different numbers. It's a compulsion to try to ease anxiety.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-32020357270915839312012-11-12T09:34:49.466-05:002012-11-12T09:34:49.466-05:00So much of it is still vivid, Keith. Thanks for re...So much of it is still vivid, Keith. Thanks for reading and commenting.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-46948281809430589392012-11-12T09:34:14.066-05:002012-11-12T09:34:14.066-05:00Thank you, Sunny. I think it was a matter of my mo...Thank you, Sunny. I think it was a matter of my mother reaching her limits of frustration and doing what she thought would help.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-11954717281834121032012-11-12T09:33:23.984-05:002012-11-12T09:33:23.984-05:00Thank you, Elizabeth.Thank you, Elizabeth.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-13584395183819978022012-11-12T09:32:13.281-05:002012-11-12T09:32:13.281-05:00Thank you, Middle Child, for your comment. When I ...Thank you, Middle Child, for your comment. When I was 13-years-old and longer, I felt very alone and isolated, and I definitely didn't want to feel the way I did. But I didn't know what to do about it.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-30573759297011985392012-11-12T09:30:15.339-05:002012-11-12T09:30:15.339-05:00Kristina, Thank you. I think it was hard for my mo...Kristina, Thank you. I think it was hard for my mother and for me. I will be writing more about being young and having OCD along the way, so I'm glad you interested in reading more! :-)Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-35957669438752400092012-11-12T09:08:39.567-05:002012-11-12T09:08:39.567-05:00Wow it's amazing how vivid this memory still i...Wow it's amazing how vivid this memory still is. Sounds like it had a profound impact. Thank you for sharing Tina. Optimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-72048200669600178212012-11-12T08:22:08.779-05:002012-11-12T08:22:08.779-05:00I agree with Elizabeth, I hate that jug for you to...I agree with Elizabeth, I hate that jug for you too! I know your mom meant well, but from your 13 year old vantage point that must have felt so incredibly cruel. I'm so, so sorry.71º & Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09981113989131619635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-74340436492721935812012-11-12T07:16:26.405-05:002012-11-12T07:16:26.405-05:00Oh, I hate that jug for you :-(Oh, I hate that jug for you :-(Elizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18279501398388972542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-62346698330599920072012-11-12T00:56:29.579-05:002012-11-12T00:56:29.579-05:00I just read the section at the top of your blog pa...I just read the section at the top of your blog page that said My OCD. You mentioned dong things in three. I have read that others the threes thing. Have you found anything about that through doctors or therapists you see?middle childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09805863175279915034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-43170740624225500802012-11-12T00:42:55.929-05:002012-11-12T00:42:55.929-05:00Did she ever notice that no one else washed their ...Did she ever notice that no one else washed their hands the way she did? Did her mom ask why the girl's hands and arms were so red and dry?<br />Did she want to not feel this way?<br />Does she know that there are many people out her loving her?middle childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09805863175279915034noreply@blogger.com