tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post731389991775173204..comments2023-10-08T08:29:47.056-04:00Comments on Bringing along OCD . . . : OCD and the loss of dreamsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-26108773203732842042013-03-19T17:55:11.745-04:002013-03-19T17:55:11.745-04:00Thank you, Grace. I appreciate your comment. I don...Thank you, Grace. I appreciate your comment. I don't think the three letters after my name would make my life better, that's for sure. I'm better at accepting the past than I used to be. Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-68285854845661296492013-03-19T15:55:19.789-04:002013-03-19T15:55:19.789-04:00Tina you are such an amazing person. What you'...Tina you are such an amazing person. What you've accomplished academically just floors me. And to think you were dealing with all of these internal issues simultaneously. I can't imagine how difficult that time must have been for you. <br /><br />I'm glad you've made peace with the fact that you didn't get your Ph.D. I think your attitude is in the right place. You're facing the roadblock head on, not fretting about what might have been. It's a good lesson for us all. Deal with the cause, not the symptoms. <br /><br />I believe your words are helping many people which is much more valuable than adding three letters at the end of your name. Sending hugs.GRACE PETERSONhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04520343332670354262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-77877607958245005862013-03-19T15:50:15.131-04:002013-03-19T15:50:15.131-04:00Buttons, thank you for your kindness. My career di...Buttons, thank you for your kindness. My career didn't take the turns I thought it would when I was young, but that's OK. Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-55701165251729820672013-03-19T14:22:27.415-04:002013-03-19T14:22:27.415-04:00I truly do believe you are doing very well even th...I truly do believe you are doing very well even though it may not have been your dream you are helping so many others telling your stories so others will not have to think something is wrong and wait to get the help the need so they may be able to complete the goal they are trying to get to. BButtons Thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05029439906543077861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-86309069315457353052013-03-18T22:17:11.270-04:002013-03-18T22:17:11.270-04:00Thank you so much. You, too, are building a full a...Thank you so much. You, too, are building a full and meaningful life in spite of OCD. I admire your talents and know you are going to continue to do wonderful things!Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-42542833514489336742013-03-18T22:15:41.558-04:002013-03-18T22:15:41.558-04:00Jodi, you make a great point. Our dreams can chang...Jodi, you make a great point. Our dreams can change, and for a variety of reasons. Sometimes what we wanted years ago for a career, for example, just doesn't fit in with our lives today.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-3153920111628720032013-03-18T22:14:04.883-04:002013-03-18T22:14:04.883-04:00Debbie, the writing I'm doing on this blog is ...Debbie, the writing I'm doing on this blog is the most enjoyable I've ever done. And it has helped me to meet wonderful people like you!Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-51110922499651642742013-03-18T22:12:57.271-04:002013-03-18T22:12:57.271-04:00Thank you, Linda, for your kind words. I don't...Thank you, Linda, for your kind words. I don't think any experience any of us go through is wasted. We can learn something from it. Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-47218623547919005972013-03-18T22:11:14.444-04:002013-03-18T22:11:14.444-04:00Thank you, Krystal Lynn. I think the way OCD affec...Thank you, Krystal Lynn. I think the way OCD affected my relationships was the worst way it affected me, too. OCD really does seem to attack what is most important to us. I'm with you: it makes me want to fight harder, too. And you fight hard--you're one of my inspirations!Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-14655765101652076222013-03-18T20:50:48.941-04:002013-03-18T20:50:48.941-04:00I have to add my voice - you are SO fulfilling you...I have to add my voice - you are SO fulfilling your dream!<br /><br />At the same time, your story shows the same painful truth all over again- how OCD attacks the things most important to us, and how it gets in the way of the living a full life. Like Elizabeth, I take comfort from your words - OCD has definitely tried but failed to rob you of a full and meaningful life. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-85404565149906877882013-03-18T20:15:51.086-04:002013-03-18T20:15:51.086-04:00I think my dreams swtich for lots of reasons and f...I think my dreams swtich for lots of reasons and feel OK about this. Sometimes it is fear, and sometimes it is for love. But it is always a choice. Jodi @ Heal Nowhttp://ww.healnowandforever.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-40044084855057962132013-03-18T19:39:54.534-04:002013-03-18T19:39:54.534-04:00Well you are writing, a very important paper ;)))...Well you are writing, a very important paper ;)))))Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16823369215793154260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-44860226078836519682013-03-18T19:22:48.750-04:002013-03-18T19:22:48.750-04:00Hi Tina, what a great post. I echo ocdtalk's ...Hi Tina, what a great post. I echo ocdtalk's sentiments. You have accomplished much and nothing was wasted. Thank you so much for sharing; in my eyes you have done much! I am very proud of you.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12692170857496442623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-22951659787802786982013-03-18T17:31:16.983-04:002013-03-18T17:31:16.983-04:00Yes, it seems just incredible to me that you were ...Yes, it seems just incredible to me that you were able to accomplish what you did with OCD taking up so much of your time. I think you are super-awesome and so glad you share your writing about OCD with us.<br /> I think OCD probably affected my education as well, and even took me away from working at all for a time. But the worst is the fact that depression and OCD took me away from enjoying my husband and children for 4-5 years. <br />The fact that OCD interferes in things we love makes me fight it all the harder.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16288842067954888301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-37399763758853684762013-03-18T17:01:16.300-04:002013-03-18T17:01:16.300-04:00Nadine/Skyyogi (:-)) Thank you for your beautiful ...Nadine/Skyyogi (:-)) Thank you for your beautiful words: "Dreams, so often, can come true but in an unexpected form." I appreciate that!<br /><br />Isn't it something how disorders like OCD and GAD can interfere so much with the things we're trying to accomplish in life? Your "success" may have been a long time coming, but I bet you were stronger and better at the work than you would have been. I think beating down obstacles can actually help make us stronger. And we really appreciate what we do accomplish.<br /><br />I hope your volunteer work at the theatre is going well and that you're finding a good balance.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-20283577444000454862013-03-18T16:27:30.409-04:002013-03-18T16:27:30.409-04:00Oops, Tina, I posted as Skyyogi, but it's me, ...Oops, Tina, I posted as Skyyogi, but it's me, Nadine. :)Nadine Feldmanhttp://nadinefeldman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-77480154171934619882013-03-18T16:26:48.333-04:002013-03-18T16:26:48.333-04:00So...you wanted to write, and you wanted to save t...So...you wanted to write, and you wanted to save the world. Sounds like what you're doing! Dreams, so often, can come true but in an unexpected form.<br /><br />Still, I get what you're saying. I can look back on my life and see the damage that GAD did, and I see how I messed up my education and career for years. Once I found treatment, I became "successful," but it was a long time coming. I didn't get my degree until I was 45 years old, and I finally got it because I could utilize online classes from an accredited school. Graduation Day was so precious, so special, so wonderful, because I knew what I had overcome to get there. <br /><br />These days I protect my dreams by making sure I have plenty of solitude and lots of self-care. I once bought a stuffed turtle to remind me to move slowly but consistently toward my dreams -- which, almost paradoxically, helps me reach them faster. I'm in a tricky place right now because I'm increasing my social involvement and need to be careful to keep plenty of alone time, but so far, so good. Nadine_Feldmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05742177071130596367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-14794836914625355542013-03-18T15:11:27.978-04:002013-03-18T15:11:27.978-04:00Klaaske, that is so true. That really gets at the ...Klaaske, that is so true. That really gets at the heart of how worry doesn't accomplish anything good. Thank you for sharing it!Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-61074534933306158052013-03-18T14:35:23.434-04:002013-03-18T14:35:23.434-04:00Tina I just want to add something I read on Facebo...Tina I just want to add something I read on Facebook today and which I think is so true for people with OCD:<br />"Worrying doesn't stop bad things from happening. It just stops you from enjoying the good."<br />I thought this so true, I want to definitely remember this next time I have an OCD worry.Klaaskehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17324051207416727146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-92112774052483966362013-03-18T14:31:54.087-04:002013-03-18T14:31:54.087-04:00Thank you, Janet, for your kindness and insight. I...Thank you, Janet, for your kindness and insight. I had never thought about it that way, but I guess not finishing the degree did help instill some resolve in me to get other things done. And you know, I don't know what I'd do with the Ph.D. now. I don't need it for a job. Things work out. Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-53964212027225378182013-03-18T14:30:10.344-04:002013-03-18T14:30:10.344-04:00Galen, Thank you. I remember my dissertation chair...Galen, Thank you. I remember my dissertation chairman was so kind about my problems in finishing, and he did not want me to judge myself harshly if I didn't finish. Remembering things like that shows me that I did learn a lot of good things from the whole process. I guess we all have things that we wonder about . . . "what if."<br /><br />The photo on your post with the daffodil in the morning light was so pretty!Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-22744296246426076092013-03-18T14:26:59.866-04:002013-03-18T14:26:59.866-04:00Klaaske, thank you so much. You should know that y...Klaaske, thank you so much. You should know that you and other readers of this blog help me to be determined. I draw a lot of inspiration and strength from knowing that you and others are also going through tough times and coming out on the other end.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-4407044368056326852013-03-18T14:24:49.930-04:002013-03-18T14:24:49.930-04:00Jackie, thanks for your kind words! And right back...Jackie, thanks for your kind words! And right back at you--I'm very impressed at all that you accomplish with your writing. You are truly using your gifts.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-66829337256124688912013-03-18T12:47:11.182-04:002013-03-18T12:47:11.182-04:00In my book, Tina, you have your PhD. Getting as fa...In my book, Tina, you have your PhD. Getting as far as you did with your OCD so rampant is an amazing accomplishment. And if you want to get philosophical about it, maybe having OCD rob you of getting that degree only helped in your resolve to not let OCD steal anything from you again...as you say, none of it was a waste. Thanks for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-38620702020912281492013-03-18T12:03:09.513-04:002013-03-18T12:03:09.513-04:00That last step is such a big one. I am sorry that ...That last step is such a big one. I am sorry that OCD got in the way of your completing that goal. And yet you have accomplished so much. I had a professional goal once that seemed out of reach but I went for it anyway. Just before I might have gotten an interview, I lost my nerve and withdrew my application. I've always wondered....<br /><br />By the way, I just read your last post, too. We both posted photos of daffodils!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.com