tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post5805787299056414513..comments2023-10-08T08:29:47.056-04:00Comments on Bringing along OCD . . . : Waiting and delaying: ProcrastinationUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-44733855738857633602012-08-24T08:45:33.346-04:002012-08-24T08:45:33.346-04:00Wow. Great post!
I have this procrastination pro...Wow. Great post!<br /><br />I have this procrastination problem too. I like what he said about "if you have the energy to think depressing thoughts, you have the energy to think proactive thoughts, such as ‘I can slowly work my way up from under this malaise’” (p. 60)<br /><br />I also like the idea of recognizing what is happening and why and pushing yourself to make small changes.<br /><br />Very inspiring post!Elizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18279501398388972542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-41819039530116281652012-08-23T21:02:59.006-04:002012-08-23T21:02:59.006-04:00Krystal Lynn, I wish I could find the middle groun...Krystal Lynn, I wish I could find the middle ground, too, because I've had times in my life when I couldn't relax unless everything was done. My OCD wouldn't allow it. I think I went too far in the other direction partly as a rebellion.<br /><br />I get tired a lot, too. I'm sorry you have that problem, too. I don't ever feel like I'm accomplishing enough. I appreciate your kind words! Right back at you!Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-50569819887337598102012-08-23T17:00:19.021-04:002012-08-23T17:00:19.021-04:00Ok, I am the weird one out, as I hardly ever procr...Ok, I am the weird one out, as I hardly ever procrastinate. I am almost the opposite in that if I know something has to be done I want to do it as soon as possible and get it out of the way. But the thing is, it sounds better than what it is and I wish I could be somewhere in the middle. For instance this spring I knew that I needed to clean all the windows and screens on the house and it was not something I was looking forward to at all, so I wanted to get it done and over with. So the first nice day, I did every single window in our house, in one day and I totally and not only did I wear myself out but I could hardly move the next day cause I was so sore. I will do that with taxes, sit up all night long till they are done and just exhaust myself. I start Christmas shopping in Oct. Really, it all makes me a very high-strung person and I am not happy that I cannot let things go once in away and relax. And once I start a project, I don't want to finish till I am done, if it kills me. There is middle ground right? <br />I get tired easily too Tina. Sometimes I wonder if the SSRI I take makes me tired even though I've been on the same one for years.? I do find a walk wakes me up and gives me more energy and I am always glad that I put on my tennis shoes instead of giving in to a nap but I'm not working a full time job like you and when I did I was exhausted between my job, kids, house work and then OCD to boot. You have great self-awareness Tina and it seems to me you are accomplishing alot. I am so glad you blog because you are really inspiring to me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16288842067954888301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-43081198728767321462012-08-22T15:04:50.932-04:002012-08-22T15:04:50.932-04:00Thank you, Janet. No, no easy answers, but you and...Thank you, Janet. No, no easy answers, but you and others have offered good suggestions.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-15900857992002338872012-08-22T15:03:56.199-04:002012-08-22T15:03:56.199-04:00Klaaske, I like your idea of not setting goals too...Klaaske, I like your idea of not setting goals too high--then when you do more, it's a positive outcome. I tend to overestimate what I "should" get done, and sometimes that defeats me before I even get started.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-36872223754359387652012-08-22T15:02:46.189-04:002012-08-22T15:02:46.189-04:00Nadine, You're right--procrastination boils do...Nadine, You're right--procrastination boils down to fear. Fear of so many things.<br /><br />I used to make to-do lists and felt like I accomplished more. I think I need to get back to that. It's a good idea to put the time down on it, too--that makes it more of a mini-goal. Thank you for the suggestions!Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-5778292063870501672012-08-22T14:56:39.862-04:002012-08-22T14:56:39.862-04:00I also use lists, and for some reason, find great ...I also use lists, and for some reason, find great satisfaction in crossing things off it. I agree that the act of procrastinating is usually more anxiety-provoking than doing what you've been avoiding.......but I know when you get in that "funk" there are no easy answers. Good for you for being aware of the problem and trying to figure it all out.Janet (ocdtalk)http://www.ocdtalk.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-38533206145361477142012-08-22T13:06:02.459-04:002012-08-22T13:06:02.459-04:00Such a relief to read you battle with procrastinat...Such a relief to read you battle with procrastination!<br />I really should change my diet, do more exercise etc too.<br /><br />It helps me if I do not set the goals I want to achieve too high. And start with short periods at a time. And I make a list in my head of what I want to achieve each day. Not a too difficult or long list, so if I manage to do more I can add that as a bonus by the end of the day. That by itself does stimulate a lot already too as you have done more than you planned in that way, and it often works. Makes you think a lot more positive. <br /> Klaaskehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17324051207416727146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-71374546431531902352012-08-22T12:43:51.420-04:002012-08-22T12:43:51.420-04:00I love what Julia Cameron says about procrastinati...I love what Julia Cameron says about procrastination. She suggests that we call it by its right name: fear. We're afraid of failing, afraid of succeeding, afraid of facing something that we don't want to...so many fears! <br /><br />Cameron also suggests coaxing and bribery. For example, if I am putting off working on novel revisions, I will promise myself a reward at the end, some activity that I find pleasurable. And yes, sometimes I give myself chocolate! :)<br /><br />For me, the to-do list helps. If I'm going to work on something that's scary for me, I write it down the night before. If it's REALLY scary, I put down the time that I intend to work on it--both start and end time. It's really fun to cross those suckers off the list! Nadine Feldmanhttp://nadinefeldman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-70906291963950515622012-08-22T12:33:07.847-04:002012-08-22T12:33:07.847-04:00Lisa, I need more of your attitude about the big t...Lisa, I need more of your attitude about the big things--just tackle them! Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-77110797388513931332012-08-22T11:32:41.497-04:002012-08-22T11:32:41.497-04:00I don't procrastinate big things - I tend to l...I don't procrastinate big things - I tend to like to tackle them. But I will procrastinate small things I don't like to do - like making a phone call.Lisa @ Two Bears Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03464839163693785901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-77669913086764247362012-08-22T10:54:00.771-04:002012-08-22T10:54:00.771-04:00Thank you, Sunny. Sleeping is one of my favorite d...Thank you, Sunny. Sleeping is one of my favorite diversions. It's such a hard habit to break. <br /><br />I'm sorry you're having a rough time with the procrastination. It's so frustrating, isn't it? I know what I should do, even what I want to do, but I put it off. I definitely need to change my thinking patterns and my behavior.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-4937415902927179862012-08-22T10:51:50.119-04:002012-08-22T10:51:50.119-04:00Believe me, Jen, I tried that . . . and tried that...Believe me, Jen, I tried that . . . and tried that . . . but it didn't work! :-)Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-80285534879964772292012-08-22T10:50:50.595-04:002012-08-22T10:50:50.595-04:00Thank you, Deanna. It's a challenge to me, too...Thank you, Deanna. It's a challenge to me, too! I procrastinate with so many things, including household chores, but I feel so much better when I go ahead and get things done. I need to be more proactive, too.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-15193472800346559742012-08-22T10:49:26.301-04:002012-08-22T10:49:26.301-04:00You mean if I just ignore it, it won't go away...You mean if I just ignore it, it won't go away?<br /><br />Darn :(Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06645996707101717652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-2367994122309421782012-08-22T10:49:17.292-04:002012-08-22T10:49:17.292-04:00Thank you for your comment. I'm glad the post ...Thank you for your comment. I'm glad the post was helpful. I procrastinate over paying bills sometimes because I'm afraid I'll fill out the check incorrectly. You're right--the anxiety over procrastinating is worse than the anxiety of doing the task. I find that my anxiety drops when I go ahead and do the task.Tina Fariss Barbourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659018994558471570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-20657116720712404862012-08-22T10:32:11.261-04:002012-08-22T10:32:11.261-04:00Ugh, procrastination is my middle name. This post ...Ugh, procrastination is my middle name. This post is very timely for me. Right now, I am really, really struggling with getting out of bed every single day, I'm taking naps again all the time, and I'm not motivated to do ANYTHING. I don't know what is going on, but I'm really struggling at this moment. I definitely need to re-read your post and work on this stuff.<br /><br />Very well written post, Tina (and filled with really good info too)!71º & Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09981113989131619635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-81016532703947235932012-08-22T09:37:36.840-04:002012-08-22T09:37:36.840-04:00Oh boy how I procrastinate! Ugh, I put off cleanin...Oh boy how I procrastinate! Ugh, I put off cleaning. And then when the house is littered with clutter, and piles of laundry, and dusty shelves it in return makes me feel even more nuttier, adds to depression. Why do I let it go for so long before cleaning in the house? I used to be the one who would NEVER ever go to bed unless the kitchen was fit and tidy. <br />You're right about how if I were to just engage myself in the activity then yes, I do believe it would help my depression.<br /><br />Thanks Tina for this challenging post. I need to be more proactive in the things that I know would be helpful in reducing anxiety. <br />Blessings, DeannaDeannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03350578149610084498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831964660986535542.post-40062404363267676802012-08-22T07:42:42.787-04:002012-08-22T07:42:42.787-04:00Thank you for your post. It was helpful for me! I ...Thank you for your post. It was helpful for me! I procrastinate with certain things that cause me immense anxiety. For example tax returns. I know that everyone hates tax returns, but my OCD makes me obscess over the potential for filling in something incorrectly and then subsequently getting in alot of trouble for - all irrational thoughts of course. The problem is that this procrastination just makes things worse as I will wake up every morning feeling extremely anxious about not having completed whichever task it is. I know that I just need to complete the task at hand, but it is a balance between which anxiety is worse - doing the task, or worrying about it not being done. Additionally, some other obscession/anxiety will likely just fill that spot when I wake up in the morning. :( Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com