Sometimes I get emails from
readers of my blog, asking me for advice on how to deal with OCD, other
anxiety, or depression.
I am always happy to tell them
what works for me. I am not a medical professional, but I do have personal
experience with mental illness and treatments. So I try to share.
One thing that I’ve noticed is
that not everyone is in treatment or even thinking about treatment.
I’m not going to make a blanket
statement and say if you have a mental illness, you need to be in a certain
kind of treatment.
But I will say this:
If you are having a difficult time coping with daily life, if life
seems dark and just gets darker by the day, if you have intrusive thoughts, if
you are abusing substances such as alcohol, if the ways you usually cope with
the bad times aren’t working, then I believe you need the help of professionals.
When I first got therapy, I didn’t
have health insurance. This was back in 1988, and I was a graduate student in
Ohio.
With the encouragement of a
friend, I contacted student mental health services at my university and started
seeing a psychologist on staff. It was the first step in understanding the pain
I had been in for years. It was the first step in a very long journey to a new
way of being.
I was able to see this
psychologist free of charge because I was a student at the university.
Eventually, she told me she
thought I needed the help of a psychiatrist for my continuing depression and
for the OCD symptoms that I finally revealed to her. She referred me to a doctor
in a nearby town.
I paid out of pocket to see the
psychiatrist, who gave me my “official” diagnoses of depression and OCD in
January 1990. I was 26 years old.
I started taking medication while
continuing my talk therapy with the psychologist.
I slowly began to see light at the
end of the tunnel.
I moved back to Virginia in July
1990, and it wasn’t easy to get the mental health help I needed. I wouldn’t
have health insurance for three more years.
But I worked with what Virginia
has, a community system of mental health professionals which I could access on
a sliding scale. In other words, they looked at my income and billed me
according to what I could afford.
It’s not a perfect system. Not all
mental health professionals are created equal. But I got some individual help
and even took part in some group therapy.
I went for long periods of time
without active therapy. I stayed on my medications and had good times and bad
times.
I read Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz’s book
Brain Lock back in the 1990s, and
that helped me a lot with OCD. I began to learn more about meditation. I read a
lot about mental health. I began to understand how spirituality didn’t have to
be a hindrance or a burden, but could actually help. I began to understand how
my relationships with family members and others hurt me rather than helped me.
Eventually, five years ago, I
decided that I needed therapy again, and my family doctor recommended my
current psychiatrist to me. He encouraged me to get some help from a
psychologist on staff, which I did.
I delved deeper into studying and
writing about OCD, and I learned a lot about how the disorder was affecting my
life.
My mental health has probably
improved more in the past five years than in all the years since I saw my first
therapist in 1988.
I know the health care system in
the United States is not always kind to those who need mental health services.
I am blessed to have insurance that covers such care.
I encourage anyone who is having a
difficult time mentally to reach out for help. To find referrals to mental
health professionals, you might want to start with your medical doctor, a
social worker, a teacher, or a minister or rabbi or other spiritual leader.
Make sure he or she is someone you
trust and who understands the needs of those with mental illness. Walk away if
they don’t take you seriously or try to minimize your problems.
Look on the Internet for help. For
example, on the website of the International OCD Foundation, you can find a lot of information about OCD as well as a
database of therapists who can help those with OCD.
Other online resources for finding
treatment providers include Mental Health America and National Alliance on Mental Illness.
The right treatment can put you
back on track. It can enable you to live the life you want to live.
That’s what it did for me.
Note: Where have my photos gone? I haven't been taking many photos lately, but I am working to change that and will have photos with my posts again!
i am glad you stuck with treatments and did not try to manage it alone.
ReplyDeleteIt's good that more people are comfortable seeking treatment than in the past. It's helpful for so many people. You give good advice!
ReplyDeleteThe treatment of mental health issues is not easy or simple. Admitting that you have a condition has to happen. Then deciding for treatment. Finding treatment that works all of these differ from individual to individual. I'm sure you can say that it wasn't easy. You've fought a good fight for a better life.
ReplyDeleteYou've had a long journey. And I hope it only gets better with time and treatment. I'll look forward to photos again. And thanks for the blog visit!
ReplyDeletei love when you post pictures tina but right now, you have enough to think about, enough to focus on!! it's been a long haul, i so admire how open you are about everything. your blog is a great source of information and support. if only one person is helped by what you have gone through, you saved a life, how amazing is that!!
ReplyDeletestick with it tina, you are on the right path.....it's too big a mountain to climb on your own!!!
Thank you for your openness in dealing with a subject all too many are afraid to speak about!
ReplyDeleteTreatment pretty much saved my bacon. At the very least, it made functional and a better mother for my kids. I'm so glad you sought treatment, Tina and that you are so open in talking about it and OCD. I remember right after I was diagnosed I was completely confused and everything, then I found your blog and just felt so relieved because SOMEONE gets it. I felt less of a freak and more of a person with a medical condition who needed it managed.
ReplyDeleteTreatment may not be easy (especially if you have to switch providers until you find someone who can help) but it is *so* worth it in the end.
Keep it up Tina!
No photos needed for a post as informative as this. You seem to be on a very positive path, right now, and reaching out to help others through your experiences is a wonderful way of giving!
ReplyDeleteGreat post Tina and I'm so glad you realize how important it is to take care of yourself and reach out for help when needed. I'm sure this post will inspire others to do the same!
ReplyDeleteAwesome post, Tina! My life fell apart so badly (two different times) that I had no choice but to get help. But how much better would it have been had I gotten treatment sooner? I will never know.
ReplyDeleteWonderful post, Tina! Many people with mental health issues don't go for treatment because they are ashamed. There is still so much stigma surrounding this. I hope in time we can move forward and treat these illnesses just like all the rest. Getting treatment is so important, and can literally change someone's health - and life - for the better. Thanks for this.
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